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Welcome to Holland Poem (A Poem About Autism)

Emily Perl Kingsley’s Welcome to Holland poem discusses the experience of having a disabled kid. We believe the poem is an excellent tool to make folks reconsider raising a kid with special needs.

Welcome to Holland Poem

Welcome to Holland Poem

Welcome to Holland poem compares what you expect when you have a child without a handicap to what you get when you have a child with one.

Emily plans a trip to Italy and activities in the same way as a non-disabled youngster would. The vacation to Italy in the poem becomes a trip to Holland, with Holland being a disabled kid.

The welcome to Holland poem employs the metaphor of a journey to Italy representing a conventional birth and child-rearing experience and a trip to Holland representing the experience of parenting a kid with special needs.

Welcome to Holland

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this……

When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”

“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”

But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.

by Emily Perl Kingsley


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Does not know how to say;
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But he just can’t see why;
Everybody’s time is spent,
Trying to make him ‘right’.

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And just watch quietly;
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With every sight and sound;
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And spins around and round.

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And sometimes others too;
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No biting word can draw it’s blood.
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It has no envy of the ones
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The statue makes its mouth a smile
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The eyes and face are satisfied,
Receding into their bright world.
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Still seek the bright society
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To seek to see and to be seen
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This is our life, not yours.

If you care,
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When you laugh,
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We are real.
We can feel.

We understand that,
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We are human.

My mind spins,
Like pins.

Because we don’t speak well…

We are seen as shy.
I cry for my girlfriend and I.

We try so hard,
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I want you to understand…
Our Autism was not planned.

We have Autism from birth.


We have worth.


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I know a little boy
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A person wouldn’t know by looking,
That he has a disability.

He has to practice and practice
To learn even the smallest things
Tasks that come easily to children developing typically.

Doctors call it Autism or ASD.
It means his brain is wired different and
He learns things better visually.

So make your directions short and precise
So his dependence on you will fade with time.
Patience, love, support and understanding
Is all that he is asking.

So when you meet this little guy
Smile and wave “Hi!”
His and your hard work
Will be worthwhile
When you get to see that charming grey eyed smile.

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